I am a new mom. My son was born on November 15th by semi emergency C-section. It was semi emergency because he wasn't in danger it just wasn't planned and he had no intention of coming out, or my body had no intention of letting him try. Its now been 4 going on 5 months. Being a mother and a wife is full of challenges; how to balance cleaning the house with cooking a well balanced meal and raising a baby. Its hard enough just taking care of the baby! William (my son) is demanding and charismatic. He wants it all and he wants it now, and you can't even be mad at him for long because he gives a smile that can melt ice. Every night is hard right now, he is old enough to sleep six hours at a time, but he won't. He can roll over and take rice cereal but he will be damned if he's going to let me sleep a wink! ok so that's a bit of a stretch. I can get a few hours here and there, enough to keep me from the funny farm but not enough to keep me from being a bit loopy.
Having a baby changed our lives in ways I didn't even know they could change. I like the dog a lot less now, and I know she doesn't always deserve it but she is the subject of misplaced rage. I live on the couch, almost never go to bed with my dear husband. Which breaks my heart, but at this stage there is no point in going to bed and then waking up to William in an hour and toting everything back out to the couch. . . I feel that in this respect I am a bad wife. I think if we were formula feeding then this wouldn't as big of an issue, I would wake up more to get a bottle ready feed him and put him back down. Even feed him in his own room. As it is I breast feed and that takes a comfy spot and a pillow or two for support, before I know it BANG! I'm asleep at the wheel, and by wheel I mean while William is eating.
In the long run I'm happy to be a homemaker. I wish more women felt the same. I think it is what our youth need. Not the power moms that work and cook and clean. The moms that are home when they get off from school. The moms that are happy to cook and clean for their family. I don't mean that I won't teach my children how to wash dishes and do laundry and cook and clean as well, and not to say that my loving hubby doesn't help out in any way I ask him to. I just think that when a woman becomes a wife and mom her priority should be her home and family. That isn't for everyone, some family's can't afford to have the mom not working, or maybe the wife/mom just cannot wrap her head around staying home. Its not that these homes are any worse off or are the cause of all societies problems. Many homes with both parents working are happy well rounded and well fed. My concern stems from the stay at home mom being persecuted or even thought to be a victim of being behind the times. I think that some traditional values are important and knowing who has what job keeps a home happy. For my family that means I take care of the baby, I clean, and I cook. My husband gets the money, takes out the trash and moves heavy things.
Well that's enough ranting for my imaginary readers for now. I'm off to do the dishes!
This one is really good. you have a very approachable style of writing. Keep doing it please.
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